Kids aren't an issue for me, since fathers "never" get custody in my state. But what about finding a woman who puts her husband first (as she should, based upon my Christian beliefs)? Is that a reasonable expectation? Part of the problem I'm facing now is that stbx puts kids and hobbies way ahead of me on the priority list...
Hola Txjet ~
While I understand what you're saying about putting the spouse first, I think you might see things differently after a divorce. For me, my daughter is #1. If someone can't treat my daughter right, he doesn't rate in my book.
I agree that once a couple is established, the husband and wife should put each other first, which will teach their children how they should be treated and how they should treat others. However I think (at least for me) it's about my Peanut and myself. If someone treats me good, that's great but he has to show me his real worth in how he treats my daughter.
Understand your reasoning, but bottom line is that what we agree upon: once the marriage is established, husband and wife put each other first. This is one issue that has plagued my marriage. Wife has child from previous relationship whose dad never was involved in her life. It was just my wife and her daughter for a few years before I came into the picture. I believe wife expected things to be the same with our two youngsters. Wife more involved with them, and with her friends/hobbies particularly after our second child. This has driven a bigger wedge in between us and caused lots of resentment. Wife swears there's no post-partum depression, but refuses to have an evaluation done...
