How do I expose the affair

[flowmom]

mb has a six year old and a nine year old. Packing up all of their possessions? I can't imagine how much additional distress that would cause the children.

Also, I haven't read anything in this thread that would justify mb telling anyone let alone social services that "H is an emotional danger to his children". Did I miss something?? And no, the A is not a good enough reason for that. I'm sorry but this advice appalls me, even though I know that it is well-intentioned.

Does mb descending to the level of her H in lying and cheating truly help her? What example does that give to the children?

I'm just not getting this. The end does not justify the means when a whole family is at stake here. The children are the innocent parties and mb and her H need to make them the priority.