THat helps immensely. I know quite a bit about my wife's issues.
Trigger was a close friend of ours died of a sudden heart attack at the age of 40 in 05. She had known him for about 20 years.
I have pictures from Aug and Sept of 06 and you wouldn't believe it's the same person, her appearance changed that much. She also started drinking and smoking.
Her friend dying I believe was one issue she had. She had told me that OM#1 reminded her of him and that was the only reason she liked him.
She has told me in the past that she feels she was emotionally abandoned by her moither growing up. Her mom suffered from depression at the time my wife was growing up and I believe was incapable of being the mother she could have been. OM#2 was a friend of hers from grade school which would have been the same time period that this occurred.
My wife is 33 now. I believe she was going through this about 8 years ago but it never finished. At the time she was having an EA with another one of her ex-boyfriends and was trying to meet up with him when she got caught. I think that's one of the reasons this one is quite severe.
As always, thanks for your input.
To add to my earlier post why she's looking for closure from her previous relationships. She told my SIL after ex-boyfriend #1 stopped talking to her that "maybe it wasn't me all along".
