Well, I'm impressed that back in the first days you were able to say "I'll survive." I couldn't say that.
Those sound like good goals, and you are on track to re-find the LFA who was always there. It's not necessarily a bad thing that we give up some of our independence in a M--it is fun and wonderful to do things together--so we may do less of things on our own.
I snowboarded by myself for some years before X started. Now I can't really get into it by myself--didn't have too many chances this dry winter, but still--it just isn't as much fun by yourself.
Assertive is so important. What does LFA want? and ask for it clearly and simply. Oh, here I am again handing out advice I can't follow myself.
Right on with realizing your H doesn't give a s**t about how you feel about the sitch, so keep it out of all C. I hit my head and heart against that rock. Still doing it as I ponder how to respond to his "move out!" command.
Please post as you can. I will go post on Next Steps a thing that just happened that should have sent me reeling...but I am OK....sort of.
