I'm doing whatever I can to learn how to love unconditionally (her and myself)
I don't think you need to think so hard about forgiveness and unconditional love right now, and I'll tell you why. It is going to make such a nice guy out of you that you'll turn to sap. Never fails whenever a LBH starts this kind of talk. Don't misunderstand. I believe in forgiveness (and I thank God that I'be been on the forgiven end) and I know what my idea of unconditional love is (may not be "your" idea), but that is not what a WAW needs to "see" from you. Yes, you need to have those things, but it's not what she wants to see from you.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
