"he's making all his decisions based on mood from the seat of his pants... having to make decisions based on impulse will in the long term just give him anxiety."
THIS DESCRIBES MY HUSBAND TO A TEE! I have been thinking of which of his friends I could talk to and have them talk to him. The really sad thing is that most of his friends that are married are not that great in their marriages either. I did think of one that could possibly talk to him but I am a little scared to approach him. Its weird talking to one of husband's friends about this because (1) they will most likely take husband's side because they are his friends and (2) I was taught to never involve people in your marriage. (hence why this board where no one knows me has been my only outlet besides my parents and my best friends). I have thought about talking to husband's uncle but have to come with EXACTLY what I will say to him. My husband is like mb28's husband in that he denies he is having an affair even though he confessed to me one time...he is now saying that he made it up (yea right...).
When I moved out husband commented that he needed to see a shrink. Should I help him find one? He is mostly interested in seeing a psychologist to deal with his issues...I was thinking that I could find a family therapist for him and hopefully the FT could also help husband deal with the infidelity/marriage as well as the issues husband would like to address.
Me: 28 H: 32 1st marriage 4 both 1 1/2 year married 2gether for 9 1S: 6months 1stepson: 2yo
