Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[newmama]

Hey, I was JUST thinking that I needed strategy!I feel lost though...like I've been doing the same things and now what.

My plan before involved cooking, cleaning, looking good, being mysterious, not ever texting/calling/emailing, GALing, being busy.

Then last week I shared some of my mystery (belly dancing and wii) and made babysitting plans with WH for going out to a wine meet up but haven't told him where I am going.

Then I stopped cooking "for" him, but am still doing it for myself, cleaning, looking good 4/5 times, but then I started sending a text or 2 about S (of course). And he replies eagerly.

So I am spinning my wheels. Now what? Part of me just wants to go about my life, looking good still (haha) and not talk about relationship stuff but just take a break from trying anything else.

Then I consider that I haven't been the one to initiate doing stuff together since maybe November...and I did last week when I suggested we went to the park. He willingly went along. So should I be doing more initiating of family stuff?

Then Lotus suggested I let him do acts of service which I agree with.

Spinning my wheels here...input? suggestions?