Hi D, When an MLC'er screams for a divorce he/she thinks it's going to end the pain...yet, when it's all said and done, the pain is STILL there.
She may scream all she wants, but don't you do anything to help her along...you see, she doesn't want to be the bad lady here...she wants yet another reason to blame YOU for her misery and to justify that deep within her, she doesn't deserve a shot at real happiness; not realizing that happiness has to come from within; and is not found in any one person or situation. You could NEVER have filled that void inside of her, no matter what you did or do now.
I realize you're not going down that road, but thought this might help you understand why she keeps trying to go there even if no action has been taken.
You're having a tough time of it, but doing fine, even if you cannot see that right now. Don't make the mistake of overanalyzing the situation, you'll lose your focus and have to fight to get it back..I was guilty of that once upon a time.
Hang in there, it'll be all right no matter what happens.
FWIW, I'm seeing Replay, as well, and detecting some anger that was left over from that stage..it's an overlap, but she's more in the Replay than in the Anger stage.
Take care of yourself, work on YOU...you're coming right along.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
