The first step to making something work is TRYING. Your AFFAIR with OW is hurting me, you and YOUR ENTIRE family. It's obvious to everyone that yo'ure lying -- This isn't about what WILL work, its about your CHOICE to be responsible husband and father, or to be a good for nothing runout or deadbeat... this is a CHOICE you make...
No one is insisting you SUCCEED, everyone HOPES that you will TRY. TRYING mean's trying 100%, not just trying when you're HERE, and CHEATING when you are on the other side of the door...
That's not trying -- That's cheating... and cheating ALWAYS FAILS.