This is my plan, it's not much different then above but I wanted advice on it anyway.
If he brings up M or D talk I plan on saying "It's not going to work as long as you don't think it will and your relationship with OW is hurting me, you and the rest of the family. It's obvious to everyone that you care more about her then you do me or your family" Then I will walk away.
If he doesn't bring up M or D, then I'm going to lay low and not say a word to him until he does.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10