Honestly, Flo... it sounds to me that your H is not really cut out for parenting unless things are going well. If your son has had these issues for six years that is ample time for your H to have done something to change his feelings about it.
Millions of people all around the world do shift work and live in apartments AND deal with children and they make it through. Millions of people are the sole income provider and don't allow that to drive them to ditching their W and kids.
You being a SAHM and your H doing shift work was not a free ticket for him not to contribute more to parenting.
I know you would like to think your H is in a MLC and maybe he is. I certainly am no expert. But to me he sounds like he simply lacks the *something* to deal with things (income, sleep, special needs child) in a way many people have to.
IMO he put LOTS of stock in making a business work because he failed in other areas of his life. While I am speculating he seems like a "wing and a prayer" type guy when it comes to business and finances. It is telling that he mingled your personal and business finances. He either was being reckless or not educated on the basics of business.
Why were you expected to handle a draining and demanding night time routine w/the children just because your H was doing shift work? Can you help us understand? Each time this issue comes up in one of your posts I find myself so confused as to why you allowed this for so long? Was it really all about the money? All of your H's failures really were his own doing but it seems (IMO of course) you justify them when he has done little to make up for them and the harm they have caused you and his children.
