Because my H lives his life on the surface and when things get to be too much for him he runs and shuts down and lets everybody else deal with it.
As long as his ego is being stroked, he is getting sex and is having fun then all things important are left to somebody else.
Sadly my H is one of the few people in the world that seems to be able to create a very good life and somehow find people (friends, family, co-workers) that validate this behavior and enable it. His boss was tired of it but my H brings in several million dollars a month of business for the company on a monthly basis so he got his way.
My H always gets his way. When he doesn't he somehow always comes out okay with minimal discomfort.
