RNM: I don't see him ending A anytime soon. If it isn't a PA, I'm sure [guessing] it will be in the near future. Or I can't imagine how it wouldn't become so. I'll be 'out of the way'. H. has already projected me cheating many, many times over the last 6 months.
The problem with this is that you will possibly never know one way or the other if he is just escalating the amount of time he is venting to OW or whether and if it does become PA. And projecting cheating isn't ALWAYS a sign of cheating. Sometime it just happens when a spouse loses sight of or perceived control of other spouse. He has lost, by his own choice, both of those things with you and it is making him nervous. There are separated people on this board where both spouses got paranoid about the other's activities immediately. Some of them reconciled and neither of them was ever cheating the whole time. I'm not saying you don't have reason to worry. I'm saying a million things could happen. Good luck.
