Missy is right. The initial part will be a continuation of the roommate status. But she is home. You can't know her motivation, but the moves are there. She has noticed that you are "busting your ass." If that bothered her, she wouldn't be coming home. Be cool, my friend, be cool.
We dicussed the sleeping arrangements last night and after being apart for so long and leeting the kids sleep where they were we are working on that.She gets alittle closer everyday.I said something yesterday and she joked 'well theres 6 more months until you get some and I said well like that was going to happen anyway and she said I might be closer than I think.Things are changing alot and thats good.See there is hope for everyone here.
Randy: Maybe its time that you back off on the sleep arrangements, affection etc and not let her know how much it means to you. Right now she knows your number and knows exactly what you want . . . hard as it may be make act as if you don't care when you get it. Let her be the one to initiate it and really want it. Otherwise I forsee it turning into okay you want it now I gave it to you are you happy? I hope that isn't how it turns out but if she isn't ready and she feels like she is pushed into doing something to get you off her back (and I'm not saying you are standing over her like you are in heat) but you know what I mean - it may not be as beautiful as you envision it in your mind. Just my 2 cents Missy
Your 2 cents worth is a million dollar answer. Randy has made great headway and the things he has said have had an effect. But this is definitely the time to back off.
Randy, your wife has given every indication of her intentions. She is moving home. She acknowledges that you are working your ass off. This is good stuff. As I have told you all along...Be Cool!
I just found this.
Chinese proverb: One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.
I am giving her some room and I did tell her the other night that maybe I would wait until she was a little more thrilled about me sleeping in the same bed. I am renting out her apt.as soon as we get everything moved out and this is what she said I should do.We will see what tonight brings,we have a house guest for another day so nothing special is expected tonight.
Stop telling her things like "maybe I would wait until she was a little more thrilled about me sleeping in the same bed." That is you putting pressure on her. And as Missy once said, keep the drool incheck.
Missy, thanks on the quote. And thanks for being a classy person. I think of you when I think of how I want to handle situations with my ex.
