It seems to ME that you have a preconceived notion on how "making a marriage" work should go. I understand that, I really do but what if there are more options that you are not giving consideration to?
I am simply asking in a general sense. What do you think?
I know this sounds harsh and please don't take this the wrong way. But I am surprised by your answer. In reading your posts lately it lead me to believe that you were done with the M/R.
If you want the M to work, it is half your decision too. You can't control H but you can certainly control your actions.
I only want the best for you and your family. And you are the only one who knows what the best may be.
(((Luv)))
Me & H: 33 yrs S: 4 & 6 D: 2 M: 9 yrs ILYBNILWY: 8/09 SEPARATED: 9/09 The Beginning
That's ok guys - I welcome your criticism. Yes, I am done "trying" to change my situation. I realize I can't fix my M or my H.
I am working on myself. I need to pick up my ovaries off the ground. I'm not a low self esteem kinda girl but this has some some damage that needs repairing - by me!
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
I KNOW what I want...my marriage to work but that is not my decision it's HIS.
Really?
You only answered the first half of the question. The second part is: What are you doing about it?
yes, luv, what are you doing about it.
I have only seen a glimmer of the right steps you need to take in the path to try to save your M. everything your H does is expected. only you can control your situation, and you can either control it to make it worse, or make it better.
which do you want? and are you REALLY going to make the steps to get you there?
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
