How do I expose the affair

[mb28]

I can't leave the house right now. I'm going to be working 55 hours a week for the next 7 weeks, plus I go to school full-time. The stress of my sitch alone with those to issues, there is NO way I can pack up and leave right now. I've already told him that he can have the house, I don't want it. He wanted the easy way out, which was for me to have everything including all the responsibility to pay for it all. In the last few weeks I have decided that I don't want the house, it's to big and way to much work. The kids and I will be much happier in a smaller place. However, this will have to wait until work slows down.

I only plan on telling my H "when you are done with OW and agree to NC we can talk" this tonight if he tries to bring up M or D talk. He hasn't tried to bring these up for last 2 nights. I think if I just blurt this out, he will take it as me attacking him. What does everyone think about that? Say it no matter what or wait for him to start the M or D talk?

I'm telling you, this scares the hell out of me to finally say this to him. Since he hired the L, I have enabled him because I didn't want him to push for D harder. However, I know it's time for me to face this fear and just do it.