I think I proved all this wrong when I offered her legal separation if she agrees to cut off all contact with OM and go to some counseling for a month or two. She refused, even though she has been requesting legal separation rather than divorce all along. She says it is too stressful for her and she needs to get away from me. She can, I will pay her, if she agrees to no OM and some counseling but she refuses. This, in my eyes, confirms why she wants to leave (OM) which I knew all along anyway.
Who knows what's going through her head, but maybe she didn't want to be the one to file so that in the future she can say "HE'S the one who filed for divorce".
Her ongoing denials of anything funny going on play into that.
I wish you the best. Hopefully this will shake your wife up enough to know that you mean business.
WAW Using God Me-43 W-40 M-14 S-11 S-9 D-7 EABomb 5/09 Separated 12/09
