This is the thing, you CAN take your WS's HOME away from them... by LEAVING... take clothes, allt he personal posessions... photo albums, cute stuff, all the emotional stuff... REMOVE IT.
THIS is SHOWING the spouse what they WANT.. giving them a glimpse of it.. saying "you dont want this.. OK, this is what you are getting instead..."
You can TAKE the spouses rug right out from under them.. that security, the smell and feel of a home.. remove it and watch the damage on their end...
A silent home is deafening.. it truly is... empty the home of all life, and tell them its the OW, or your home back.... and stand firm on it.
