flowmom | shifting from devastated to rebuilding

[flowmom]

OP, yes I understand that the MLC stages aren't useful for predicting...just for interpreting the current stage.

Did something traumatic kick-start your H's depression?

Yes. The depression started 5 years ago, a year after he became a father of a special needs child. Our S6 has a lot of issues that we're only now getting diagnoses for (high functioning autism, etc). At that time, my income also dwindled and became less reliable (I've been basically a SAHM during that time) increasing H's provider stress. H is a shift worker with sleep issues and we live in an apartment, so our children's sleep issues (which have now been documented) have been a huge problem for H. I can predict when H is going to go into "attack mode" based on his shiftwork schedule, but while recognizing that he has sleep issues H refuses to do anything about it (other than moving out!!). I've also dealt with a lot of sleep deprivation (and I've done ALL all of the nighttime parenting for six years) and that hasn't made me fun to live with either at times.