Replay is usually 2-3 years of trying out new things as though they were teenagers trying to figure out who they are or what their image should be: new music, new clothes, new friends (much younger), a new lifestyle (it might involve lots of alcohol or a new sport). They generally spend money recklessly, and develop need-to-have obsessions. My H suddenly became obsessed with sportscars and motorcycles and was test-driving at dealerships and going to car expos, insisting (out of the blue) that this was something he'd always been interested in. He talked about the kids as though they were a life sentence ("We'll be too old to do anything by the time they leave home" whereas now he says, "I'll really miss them when they move out").
Did something traumatic kick-start your H's depression? HB is right, though, there are several years of growing dissatisfaction with their lives which preceed this event.
