She must be seeing a lawyer...what now?

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Bumping for Awoken who really wants input from his peeps!

Just in case I can get some more varied input to my current question, I'm posting it again to bump it. I hope some of you that used to post on my thread might chime in again.

I'm disgusted and tired. I know I've only been at this for four months, and many of you have been here so much longer. I'm worried that my detachment is taking me to a place with busting this divorce matters nothing to me. My urge right now is to call my lawyer first thing in the morning and find out what we can do to get the process moving. I know she has not heard back from my w's lawyer.

I still believe in marriage; I still don't think divorce is the way the handle problems in a marriage. Pushing the divorce now, could be what I need to do to show W what she stands to lose. But on the other hand, maybe I need to draw the divorce process out as long as possible?

I have to consider the continued risk of her drinking and being of meds, but so far it does not appear to be getting worse, and maybe it's improved a little.

This feels like a crossroad decision: push the divorce or try to wait it out.
Friends, what are your thoughts?