Packign my things, emptying our home of all my belongings and making arrangements to live elsewhere had a HUGE impact on my wife...

Me packing up and telling her I need to protect myself and our relationship from her affair while she sat there crying holding her cell phone was perhaps the most forceful move I had ever made to send a message.

There are no words as powerful in the english language as an empty home... I can't stress that enough....

When the AS TURNS the TABLES, attacks the AFFAIR, EMPTIES the HOME, becomes unavailable and STOPs the pursuit .. becomes something the spouse CAN'T HAVE anymore, ... THAT is what makes the spouse take NOTICE...

Begging, coddling, pleading, waiting around in teh home until they come back... none of that works...