flowmom | shifting from devastated to rebuilding

[flowmom]

Thanks for the encouragement Cyrena .

I agree with you that there are advantages to separation. I am definitely experiencing them myself. I feel like a fragile seedling that is getting a chance to grow without being stomped on. And although my children are definitely stressed at the S, and I'm not convinced it's better for them, at least they are not dealing with H's anger these days.

But I also take to heart what I read in Depression Fallout: when a spouse separates while in a depression then they are very serious about leaving and chances of reconciliation are very low . I guess I want our M to be one of the exceptions like the success stories that I've read here on this forum.

I didn't mean to discount HB's writings...I do find them useful and I will continue to plough through them. I think I decided that H is in Replay. But that doesn't tell much about what the next year will look like