I agree with you both on princple... why should anyone surrender ground when they are the one's being hurt by and large... ?

BUT when surrendering that ground reveals to the WS the damage they are doing it can be quite productive...

Legally there may be cause for concern, so look into that.

I would note that any legal pursuit should be noted to the WS to keep things OPEN and fully disclosed.

The note I would attach is this :

I am taking steps to protect our marriage and our family from the OW and your affair. I am seeking a lawyer's advice on matterns concerning protecting our children's home from the OW and the harm she is doing. You are entitled to know I am seeking an attourney's help to protect our marriage and our family.

This makes it clear what her objective is, ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS set a powerful example of adulthood whenever you make a choice like this in hopes the WS catches on and follows suit.

This keeps the WS from filing for divorce and jumping to the conclusion that his marriage is over.

Last edited by Allen A; 02/23/10 06:26 PM.