Ring On or Ring Off????

[ddstartingover]

I'm going to back track a bit---first, OP - if I sound frustrated, it's not at you (hopefully you know that)----I do appreciate the advice.

Something on my mind recently-----when H and I had trouble (minor issues) in the past, I treated him with silence (which he HATED---but usually got his attention). It is NOW just occurring to me that all of my attempts to go dark and NC have probably just seemed like more of the same to him......and I've wondered if that was all wrong for me.......just a thought.