You cracked me up with the drool comment...Randy, you need to listen to Missy. She is a very wise woman! And Missy, you make a very good point about what men want.
As for my situation, I have a thread on surviving. Perhaps, you'll stop by there, Missy, and tell me what it was like being around the OW. But I do see contact between OM and me although the X said she will keep it to a minimum.