I'm pretty sure she KNOWS that I do, but b/c of her depression will tend to 'go there' (I suck, he hates me, I'm a loser, but I just can never work it out with him, yada yada yada)
Do you realize and know that women that have low self esteem and say things like that actually subconsciously say this to themselves when a man is pursuing them?
"If I am such a loser and I suck, then there MUST be something wrong with HIM for loving me, since I don't even love myself."
She thinks she is no good and sucks and concludes that you must not have so much going on if you love and want someone that is no good and sucks...
So, your answer is to stay distant and let HER pursue you so that she tries and wants to be a better person. The men in your position almost always think the opposite. You always think that by pursuing her and giving her compliments and hanging in there for her, that she will feel better about herself and fall madly in love with you because you are such a great guy.
You need to show her that it it is a turnoff for a man when a woman has low self esteem and is depressed is is wanting space.
Just answer her email politely. Be short, be vague.
Tell her about the bill and "I slept like a baby. Got to run talk to you later"
That is it. Then wait for her to contact you for the nexgt go around.
