Lastly I said something about the stress that she is dealing with and let her know that I too have to deal with stress. She said stress of what: so I replied, work, upcoming move, getting house ready to sell, probably going to lose money on house, youngest D really going through one of those stages. I did not say anything about R/M, I think that is what she was expecting and wanting to me to say...but I didn't go there.
Good for you. Don't allow her to use you for her excuse or make you the bad guy. Her problems are brought about mostly by her choices and she needs to be a big girl and act like an adult and handle it. How do you live with that day in & day out? If my H used his voice of authority (like he knows how to do) and let me know that he would not tollerate my b!tchy mood......I promise you that I'd get out of it real quickly. Women do what their H's allow them to get away with. You allow her to act like a bi!ch and wipe her feet on you. You have seen that when you call her ahnd on it, she stopes. Looks like you will have to call her hand every day before she starts acting like a lady to her H.
Let me tell you something....when you ignore, that is allowing her to get away with disrespecting you. Is that what you want to do?
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So, more space I can give her. I did last night and went to sleep before she came up from basement. It was midnight when she went to bed. This morning she tells me that she lost track of time (I didn't ask at all, didn't care really) and has to be better about that because now she is tired. I didn't respond.
And, so she will continue to do that, b/c she can.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
