Upside, If it will help you, I had the SAME struggle with patience..it is one of the biggest factors in MLC..mainly because they are SO slow..and you just want to get on with it, LOL!!
But, as a wise one once told me..to learn what you have to learn, patience brings forth fruit..and you can never have enough.
As I backed out of his drama, detaching and distancing..it was easier for me.
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Still no talk of my H moving home however he is continuing to spend more time here. In comparison, he probably spent more time here on the weekend than he ever has however he seems to wake up early and is anxious and has to leave. I have trouble figuring that one out. We did have a very short R talk the other night but I didn't push anything. During the conversation he did refer to the master bedroom as "our room" and for some reason that felt like progress to me...silly huh!
No, that IS progress, he's coming ever SO slowly toward you, is what I see. You have to realize he IS coming forward, though still afraid and questioning himself. Continue to let him come to you, when he wants to talk. And watch for the little things like you're seeing..they are encouraging.
He is currently trying to figure out within himself if this is the right thing for HIM to continue to make his way forward toward you...never mind what you know..it's his decision.
He wakes up early and anxious to leave, as fear is still within him. It was said to create as much of safe environment as we could with no pressure..yet, they are still full of fear and apprehension; moving back and forth as they get ready to go through another stage of this.
It seems to be little progress, but progress, nonetheless.
I'd say you're doing fine; keep it up.
I apologize for disappearing and reappearing...I'm on the road; posting as I have time to do so.
Hang in there, Upside, you're doing fine.
Much love, HB
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
