Am I stupid?

[dday101798]

Heh, on the family front, been there done that. My (x)W up and left me, cheated me and did so directly in front of our kids. And yet, I was the "bad guy". You have to remind yourself, that is not true, and eventually it will pan itself out. Now 3 months into reconcilling, I'm jsut starting to feel some warmth from her family.

Mine, the same, cared for her so much and wanted to help, but she mad3e her bed, and thus had to sleep in it.

All I can tell you is it sounds as if you have the PMA to make through the long haul. But in saying that, the long haul means time. There's that word again. Time for you to set yourself straight and time for your W to set herself straight. All you can do is 'lovingly detach' yourself and let it runs it's course. At the same time though, as I said, protect yourself and your kids at any moment you get an uneasy feeling for everyone's well being.

Sounds easy enough, but it's not. It will tear you apart from time to time, over and over. It's the nature of the beast. Is it right? No. And only you can decide how much you are willing to withstand.