WAH in MLC with PA

[flowmom]

DG, I've familiarized myself with your sitch somewhat. I feel for you. I know how a special needs child and financial issues can wreak havoc on M -- huge issues for us.

Easy for me to say, but try not to focus too much on the OW. She is not really the issue...for things to get to this point in your M, there was a lot of water under the bridge and a lot of life circumstances and actions/inactions on your and your H's parts.

You might want to read up on happy_again threads that I posted in my thread. He was a MLC/EA-engaged WAH who really told it like it is. The harshness of his posts is pretty shocking and provides a window into one guy's frame of mind. In his case the EA was a huge deal to him, yet it was somehow compartmentalized from his R with his W -- almost like parallel universes. His W was a saint and was a hard-core DBer.