Looking for Advice

[gutwrenching]

ALL -
Thanks for the input, lots for me to chew over today. Tired today, three phone calls, work related for me in between 2 and 3 in the morning last night.

I am not at all certain the EA is over. Never have been; do I want it to be over, yes...but if I had to bet, all along I'd bet it is not over. There are signs that it is and as you all pointed signs that it is not.

Trip to her father's alone - this is not as uncommon as it appears. Her father/step mother are very, very difficult for us to visit as a family. Step mother is handicapped and nothing about their place or visiting them is kid friendly. Neither of them ever really want anything to do with the kids. This would be the third time she visited her dad alone. HOWEVER, radar is fully up that this could be rendezvous. If so, she'll get caught. I can always call her dad's house vice her cell to talk to her. And the hotel she will be at one night...see if she is really there. And I can call OM's work and see if he is around those days or took time off.

Changing the password is a big red flag. I am pretty sure I can get the password changed again, but after seeing Sandi's post, maybe I do just lie low and wait