OK blakskys, it doesn't sound like you have READ Michele Davis' Divorce remedy yet.
THe VERY FIRST THING you need to LEARN here is that when a SPOUSE is feeling NEGATIVE about their marriage, ESPECIALLY when they are having an affair.. what they SAY is NOT of ANY USE to you.
Ignore 100% of what they SAY, and 50% of what they DO... it is NOT constructive.... I would'nt even put the engergy into POSTING it here...we have ALL HEARD this stuff :
I love you, but I'm not in love with you Our marriage is over, i'm done You are the reason our marriage failed I feel trapped, I feel like I'm in a cage I feel lost, hopeless, confused, and VERY ANGRY
We have ALL HEARD all of this stuff.. you need to STOP listening to that garbage..
your wife is experiencing wayward martial impulses AND is in the heat of a sleazy affair... her IMPULSES are guiding her jugement right now NOT her reasoning faculties. IGNORE the negative CRAP and fight for your marriage. STOP letting her DRAW you INTO the negative world her brain is in right now.
When an alcoholic tells you how miserable they are, do you sit down with them and have a drink and share horror stories?
I applaud your daughter for speaking up. YOU make SURE you THANK her for protecting her HOME... its a RARE thing to find someone with the COURAGE to do that.
IGNORE your wife's fingerpointing, she's just deflecting her guilt ridden impulses outward to reduce her stress level.
You really need to start READING... Not Just FRiends by Glass is a GREAT START... we can't Possibly tell you EVERYTHING here in this forum that you can benefit from.. its aLL been said VERY well in Not Just Friends... I wouldn't bother much with After the Affair until its on the way out.
