I did drop off the board for awhile and I have to admit something that I struggle with...
When all this came down I released alot of anger on a punching bag and a wall!
I have never physically abused my wife or children but my garage is a wreck. Now with that being said, My D11 asked me what was wrong, during the bout that insued after recieving the text -I was in a fury and said " Your M has a boyfriend, she has since the middle of summer and many of the things you have heard and seen are because of it. It doesn't mean she doesn't love you it means she doesn't love me. I am going to take care of it as qwikly as I can, so this stops."
D11 was upset and did call her M. Of course W says I screwed up big time and could have ruined D11 life forever by telling her bad things about W. I spent a couple of hard days in solitary confinement over that.
THAN FIL calls- and he wants to know how it's going since his attempted intervention 5 weeks ago. I tell him the whole thing.
His response - " let her sink all the way to the bottom and don't help her, what you told your D11 was the truth was it not? Than my D can't handle the truth. If I was you I'd fight for total custody of those kids, kick my D's ass to the curb and say see ya. I know she is my D but you deserve better and I know for damn sure my grandchildren deserve better than a mother whom lies, cheats and cannot embrace forgiveness and a chance to make right."
My only BURDEN as it is right now is that - My kids and part time visitation basically. SUX!
M43 W43 D11 S7 M18 T20 WAW is back & trying (no she was lying) Close to callin' it busted but.... watching Whatever the outcome - It was a choice.
