DC, good to see you again. I almost missed this thread... and did some backtracking to check out your last few posts. I'm glad you're doing well bro and hope you can get the trial date to stick.
We will see. Harassing behavior currently using discovery procedure, but we'll see how that turns out. Should be soon.
Originally Posted By: blownaway65
DCBHM, Aside from the ages of our kids, which is kind of irrelevent anyway, my sitch and where I'm at now are spookily close to yours.
Good Luck going forward.
Put your children first. Keep them at the forefront, and keep perspective on what you want should you ultimately D. Do not expend yourself early in the fight. Just sort of bide your time until the end and get set. I got ready early on, but it is a long wait.
Originally Posted By: maynard2121
Originally Posted By: DCBHM
As much as you feel like you want to 'fight' for the M, you've got to step back and take care of yourself. Don't get so wrapped up at what your WS is doing that you neglect yourself.
This is where I have gotten stuck -I have self destructed in many ways- I am coming out of it slowly, but man it's the worst part to get stuck in. I would have rather been crying my eyes out for 4 months than neglect myself as I have.
I appreciate you sharing your journey
At first I didn't feel like doing much, but I started dressing nicer, wearing cologne, etc. and gradually just focused on doing things besides sitting around the house.
Eventually your mindset begins to match your actions. Anxiety and depression can be combatted with therapy and ADs, but be wary of side effects and work with your doctor to make sure you get the right one. The first one I took pretty much caused some odd mood changes.
Get into exercise, and spending time with our kids if you have any.
Good luck otherwise. I know from my own experience "OM1" has lasted persistently for nearly a year and a half. But primarily via phone contact and whatever they sneak around on. I know W lies to her family, and I'm not worried about any further exposure because I gave up on her.
I'm quite certain the drama of the D and her mental state have pretty much driven the A along as her lifeboat. When things are over I fully expect reality to weigh in.
Not a journey I'm willing to wait on her to finish.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
