Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[newmama]

So last night I got WH to make me his salsa-it was delicious! I left pretty quickly after he arrived here from work. I wasn't all done up (I wasn't in the mood and it won't have much of an impact if I ALWAYS am done up before I leave) but I looked decent.

So I went for a very very long walk and talked to my girlfriend on the phone.

When I returned, I ate the salsa and we hung out for a few minutes. I was friendly but did not initiate conversation... he had every opportunity to bring up R talk (good or bad) but chose to talk about S!

"We" have a good sleep routine in place and "we" should just keep doing the same and tweak as needed....

I realized that I used to be so concerned that he and OW had tons to talk about because they worked together. Well, now they work for the same company but different groups. But they don't have a child together--he and I could talk about S for hours every day! Holy moly....what do they really have in common anymore?

And about the sex....I am pretty sure they went crazy in the beginning, going all out and doing whatever they wanted, but at this point..well a man has needs and there she is. Get in, get out. "why isn't this as exciting and illicit as it once was?" he could be thinking!

I seriously doubt that their relationship hasn't "evolved" and it has no where to grow. I mean they are in limbo, too....stalemate....plateau....if he divorces me, he will never bring her around to his family, the people at work will be very disappointed, his work friends hate her, and he will lose the opportunity to see his son as much as has been. I mean they could get a place together....then what? How fulfilling will their life really be?
This is why 95% affairs end and less than 1% of marriages to OPs last.


So those are my thoughts today! Burn baby burn....