Ring On or Ring Off????

[ddstartingover]

Well --- had the bank (not our BANK, but the bank that issued our credit card)been calling about something important, i.e. unauthorized access of our credit card account, the call needed to be made. Should I have called the bank first to see if they couldn't talk to me? Maybe. But, given the fact that all of our finances are joint at this point, and they specifically asked for him, I felt I needed to let him know. They are able to tell what charges are made on individual cards, and if I had called only to find they had questions about charges on his card, I would have most definitely been accused of "snooping."

I do think some specific instances of his anger are worsened by our lack of communication, and with kids and finances involved, I can't go completely NC. Would it do ME some good, definitely. But----it would also do me some good to not have to deal with him at ALL right now.