Still no talk of my H moving home however he is continuing to spend more time here. In comparison, he probably spent more time here on the weekend than he ever has however he seems to wake up early and is anxious and has to leave. I have trouble figuring that one out. We did have a very short R talk the other night but I didn't push anything. During the conversation he did refer to the master bedroom as "our room" and for some reason that felt like progress to me...silly huh!
snodderly-It is so funny but I keep hearing Roosevelt's quote lately "There is nothing to fear but fear itself." I think somebody is trying to tell me something. I agree that others sense your fear and tension and they can sense your self-assuredness as well. I am trying to stay positive and self-assured...and keep those pesky negative thoughts creep at bay.
Originally Posted By: HeartsBlessing
It's a fine balance..too harsh, and you'll lose it all..too easy, and they take that as a license to run over you..and you might lose them anyway.
HB-I struggle with this at times. You want to be understanding and patient but at the same time, you can't let yourself be a doormat. Patience was never one of my stronger virtues but I am certainly learning it now between my H and my 2 teenage kids. I am trying to let things just unfold as they will and continue to be his friend. It is always easy when he is making an effort to move forward...I will continue to try even when he takes a step or two back.
I agree that others sense your fear and tension and they can sense your self-assuredness as well. I am trying to stay positive and self-assured...and keep those pesky negative thoughts creep at bay. 