Curve, I'm not sure what option you are speaking of? If you're talking about paying to terminate that child? Then the answer is an emphatic "NO"! But I also refused to help support that child; that falls squarely on XOM and the W. Fortunately, my W has some money and is just starting to get CS from him.
We have NOT moved back in together and I do not have a time frame for such. I'm still not even sure if it will happen. But I knew during the whole pregnancy that she needed to suffer through this.
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She said she is tired of being 'alone'
Make sure this isn't her only driving force! Typical of women with the described psychological condition of which you described. She needs to 'want' to be with you; not 'needing' to be with you.
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Will you help me and can we then work on us?
Can I say "the check is in the mail?" I let it known to my W that she needed to be able to be alone and, then, want to be with me. I will not be a fallback plan, nor will I be second choice. I'm no longer her rescuer. The most I have given her is, a trusting ear. I let her talk and I do not criticize nor do I ridicule her. I want her comfortable in talking with me.
You know your W well enough to know when she's full of bovine excrement. let your BS detector guide you. Personally, I'm afraid if you rescue her at this point; she will have not learned anything. You will just have affirmed that you will take care of her when she needs it.
But would I be tempted to rescue my W in different circumstances? Probably, just because it's in my nature. but part of the DB process is getting yourself healthier and practicing 180s; so here I am.
I'm praying for you buddy. This chit ain't easy; and its hard to watch the one you love goin' down in flames. But we can't "fix" em brother. They have to "fix" themselves.
