not really or at least he doesn't express remourse and infact has changed his tune and no longer accepts "affair" as a definition of his relationship with ow.
Does he reassure you by his actions that he is not in contact with this woman?
absolutely NOT.
It is also very likely that there were preexisting conditions in your marriage, weaknesses if you will, that left your marriage vulnerable to an affair. Have those been corrected?
On my part YES on his part NO
What is your 'gut feeling' about your husband - is he still in an affair?
"gut feeling" yes if not her then another
I'm NOT saying the affair was your fault, that bad choice was strictly his. I just don't think that your marriage can be recovered until the affair and all its ugly parts have been dealt with.
I am at fault because I wanted my h to spend time with me and son and he chose not to so I complained, nagged etc. I am at fault because h would always be late getting home and I'd express my displeasure with it. I am at fault becuase I wanted a second child. I am at fault because I wanted a cat to replace the one that died before we moved. I am at fault because I said I do.
So now I just shut up and let him do what he wants.
Good sex will come with a good relationship. It is amazing to me the number of posts I have seen (including mine) that claim a good relationship, all except the sex. So far, I have come across no one here that actually matched that description. If the sex isn't good, then neither is the relationship.
exactly!! if there is no relationship there will be no sex. So looking at the lack of sex as the problem is like putting a bandaid on a gross bleed. This r needs lots of work but only one of us is willing to put any time or effort into it so....
