When I first came here looking for answers and I found the timeline, I thought for sure my H would be different or at least on the shorter end of the timeline. Tomorrow will be the 3 year anniversary of the bomb however I know my H's crisis started at least a year before. So, he is at least 4 years in and showing signs of coming out it. If he is coming out of it, that is wonderful for him and our M however, I am trying to remember the hard lesson that I have learned here and that is to live my life regardless of what my H does or doesn't do. Life is too short to be sitting around waiting for my H to make it through the tunnel and into acceptance. Trying to figure out where someone is at in their MLC is like watching a pot of water waiting for it to boil and you don't even know if the burner is turned on. Yes, the stages are helpful just so we can know what they are going through and really that is it. Everyone is situation is different so it their timetable.
