Rob - nice to hear from you. Please read and respond.
She absolutely wants to go on vacation together. While I hardly have cash burning a hole in my pocket, it won't do any real harm financially. I think we would likely split the cost with each of us paying our own way. Regardless of the outcome of our situation, it will cost each of us half in the long run anyway.
I am confused why you would say we should go. You were totally against us going with the kids at Christmas. Isn't going away with her, accepting her invite to her apartment, etc letting her "cake eat" big time? Isn't she getting all the good parts of me, without having to commit to out marriage? Please explain.
Her current apartment, while in a beautiful building is very small. She simply wants more space. She would also like a second bedroom, so the kids could stay overnight if they want. She said it was ok at first, but actually living in it is claustrophobic. By most people's standards her current place would be great, but she is used to living in our 2500 square foot home. She is so much better off than most people who are separated, but would never see it that way. She could have plans for a roommate that she does not want to tell me about, but i highly doubt it. She really loves her privacy and I can\t see her ever living with another person.
A friend of mine said I have the perfect arrangement right now - my own privacy, freedom, in my house with my kids and I have a "mistress" with a nice apartment who invites me over for sex and on Sundays comes to my house with groceries and makes me a great dinner.
Is that the case or do I have a cake eating WAW? Or is it really both???
All other feedback appreciated as well in addition to Rob.
