Nikblondiew Thank you for sharing. Even with what I said yesterday, I checked firs thing this morning. He talked to her a ton yesterday and even called his lawyer and then called her right after. I hate this whole mess.
Yesterday I had a friend knock some since into me. Stop being nice to him, he is just playing you and you are letting him. At first I was mad at her, but then it hit me that she was right just like all of you have been telling me. It's time for me to stand up for myself, and not let this a$$ walk all over me anymore.
The NC hasn't been working very well, with work, school, and kids I can't really go hide out at my safe place. However, I suddenly feel stronger then I ever have during this whole thing. I've been so worried about ignoring him and making sure I was really nice to him. And get this, telling him I believe that he is just friends with OW. I'm done doing that. I will see him tonight after school. If he says one word to me about us (which is usually "I can't see how it will ever work"), I want to say "It's not going to work as long as you believe that" and "Your relationship with this OW is hurting me and the rest of the family. When your done with her and agree to NC, we can talk". PLEASE advice on this?
I've never really done this with him before; because I was always so afraid he would run straight to his L and file the papers. However, now I know that no matter what his reaction, it's out of my control. And I'm no longer afraid of D.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
