your right about me monitoring his phone records. I think it is turning into an obsession for me. It's the first thing I think of when I get up, and I check as soon as I get to work. If I see they talked the day before, it ruins my whole day. On the day's they don't talk, I'm in a better mood. How can something have that much control over my moods. However, it's my only form of intel right now.
Couldn't have said this any better....MB...I know...I've been there, I did it for a really really long time each day with my husband especially when the affair was my best friend....with the others I still checked but wasn't as obsessed. I agree with everyone that it isn't helping. I would stop, yes you are right. Looking back I wish I would've sooner. Could have spared myself A LOT of days of anguish, etc. Yes, exactly my mood was based off of his cell phone records...I know what you mean. I get it. But I realized I shouldn't have and can't (in the future) give someone that much control of myself and mood. I think the best thing you can do which I think you have realized too is to stop checking. At some point the affair is going to fizzle out, especially that it has been exposed. I wish peace for you I know this isn't easy I'm still working through it. Each day I work towards more and more inner peace with myself, thoughts, decisions, feelings. I'm here for you if you need to talk.
