I remember speaking to a fellow at my church ages ago who had been through divorce. He was telling me that sometimes its not till years later that you see changes in the kids. They handle it like troopers for years and then it comes out. I agree that keeping boundaries is important and letting her know what is OK and what is not. Remember, we always strike out at those we are closest to. Keep at it, SFO! Btw, you are right, my STBX is not a parasite but she could live through a nuclear explosion because she'd be at work and wouldn't even notice it had happened. All the damn bodies would just be an annoyance that gets in the way of her doing her job.
