I have read your sitch awhile ago also mt27??(I think) and our situations are quite similiar.
I am not dealing with OM. That has been confirmed. My W has just given up on me b/c she thinks I can't change. I'm sure she tried to make things better over the past year if not more but I was inresponsive to her actions.
It really did take her saying she's leaving to wake me up and take action.
She asked me many of time " Why did it have to come to thjis for me to respond?"
I couldn't give her an answer before but now I realize my problems and can answer her.
Problem is she most likely doesn't care now.
I will handle this in a mature way and get the help I need.
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