Who says you have to show ANY cards. Bluffing has been a way of winning a poker hand since the beginning of time.. Bluff her.. Her lawyer is obviously doing some bluffing and it seems to be working on you. Get the upper hand here.
Go for everything. All in. They need to see you getting strong, resolved and tough here. Your attitude should be the one she is taking. (look how her attitude is effecting YOU) Take charge.
Go all in for yourself, she gets to unilaterally make a decision that will effect you, her, the kids and your family for the rest of your life. F that. Why should she get anything? Ask for it all - custody, all the money, the house etc. Show your kids you will fight for your values, if your W wants to quit then let her but there are consequences - serious ones.
To quote Rambo, "She drew first blood." Show your teeth. You lose a lot here if you don't protect yourself. OK she's depressed, MLC, menopause (have empathy) but she is suing you for divorce. (The Brutal Reality) My favorite professor used to give us a quote for the day, here is one: "The hangmans noose tends mightily to focus the mind." Let her have all the consequences of killing your marriage and family. It is her decision let her own it.
No anger or spite just resolve. This is what you want then I will give it to you in spades. Let your L be the hammer. Own the 4th quarter.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
