Unfortunately my wife has left the home and I'm working with only seeing twice a week when we exchange to kids.
I am in the same boat, except no kids- we have dogs, but I have made a boundary for W to keep her's while having an A. I know it's difficult to sep the two- doing/ changing things that need to be changed for you, and then for the M.
Ultimately we want W to notice, so something can happen. I struggle daily- but if I believe my M is dead- even if it's not what I want, then the focus has to be on me...
