If you are still trying to rebuild a relationship with your WAS, I would recommend "Getting Back Together" by Bettie Youngs and Masa Goetz. I'm in the middle of the book right now.

You can see a limited preview of the book here:

http://books.google.com/books?id=ibS6BImYcGQC&pg=PP1&dq=getting+back+together&cd=1

Me: 44, Wife: 39
M: 17 years T: 20 years
Bomb on 08/25/09
1/13/10: MC started
1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs
8/28/10: Wife moved out
No talk of D, no movement

"Every day is another chance to get it right."