Pigskin - it turns out I started out just like you when it came to contacting OM. I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt and had a polite conversation with him where he sounded apologetic, etc but didn't ever change his behavior. I called him.
I know what I did wasn't wise. WAW is fuming but again, I figured I had nothing to lose at this point and was blowing off steam I guess.
ME/XW:47 S21, D19, S15, S14 M:21 T:26 W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12 W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline
